Being a child is full of its ups and downs
We've all been there (obviously). But maybe your childhood was different.
Maybe you felt different from others or expressed yourself differently.
If you've never heard the term Indigo Child or Starseed, you may be surprised to find that you, or even your child, are one of them.
For most kids, there are expectations in school to get good grades, do well, listen to the adults and do what is expected of them. But for many kids (or yourself) this type of learning and living didn't sit well with you.
You preferred to have alone time, sit with nature, challenge authority and daydream. A typical school curriculum doesn't condone much of these things. The home environment was structured with the same elements: do your chores, listen to authority, be a good girl or boy and don't question the adults.
This type of lifestyle for an Indigo child or Starseed can be stressful, overwhelming and may lead to depression.
Starseeds are emotionally evolved yet most of society doesn't see them in that light.
Many Starseeds fall into some or all of the following categories -
Creative or artistic in different facets
Enjoying alone time
Has a hard time making new friends
Deeply connected to nature and/or animals
Challenges authorties
Challenges societal norms
Daydreams
Gets bored easily
Very intelligent but does average in school
Tendency toward rebellion
Possibly diagnosed with ADD or similar
May seem depressed at times
Empathic (take on other peoples feelings)
There is nothing wrong with the Starseed child. In fact, they understand the Earth's energies better than most people. They sense subtle energetic shifts. They deeply feel when nature is out of balance or when a person or animal is suffering. They have a subconscious need to help those who appear to be hurting. They understand, on a cellular level, that humanity is all linked together. There is no separateness. Every living Being on the planet relies on all other living Being and that we must all work together in joy, peace and love.
When these children are told in school to sit down, listen and raise their hand to talk, this puts them in a strained position of wanting to do the right thing but knowing that it doesn't feel natural. They know that their mind works differently but it can be difficult to express to adults, who think linearly, how their process works. They are global thinkers. Helpers. Humanitarians. Artists. They are here to raise the global consciousness of the planet. To help raise the frequency of Mother Gaia and its inhabitants. They are here to bring peace to mankind and protect our most precious resource - planet Earth.
Helping them become aware of their true function in this lifetime is paramount to their mental health. If not nourished, they may become depressed and most likely be put on medication. This will completely stifle their personality and not allow them to flourish and thrive.
As a parent, the best practice for you is to allow them alone time when they need it. This helps them to decompress from the energies of the day. Being in school can be exhausting for Starseeds as they need to process and just sit while their body moves out the unnecessary energy.
Give them ample time in nature, give them a plant or animal to take care of or get them walking outside as much as possible.
Let them express themselves artistically in whatever means comes most naturally for them. Growing up, I was into moving my body. I would find ways to get energy moving by doing a physical activity that felt good to me: cartwheels, dancing, swinging on a swing or biking. Some kids may want to use their hands while others might find a way to be creative with technology. Let them play and experience different facets of creativity. It will ebb and flow as they get older. The more exposure they have at a younger age, the better they will be able to express themselves as teenagers.
There is no logical way to raise a Starseed. Each unique Being has their own way of expressing the world around them. Listening to their needs and allowing them to navigate life in their way, even if it seems strange to you, will help them develop a healthy mind, body and spirit.
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Making decisions is a daily activity.
What do I wear to work? What should we eat for dinner? Do I go back to school? What should we name our firstborn child?
Some decisions are so much easier and don't feel like a life-and-death scenario.
But other decisions can weigh on you causing sleepless nights, mindless eating and possibly even bugging your family and friends for input who are tired of hearing about the situation.
And when you become wrapped up in your own "drama" you feel that the decision has consumed you until you have become stressed out and irritated.
But you don't need to feel this way ever again. Simply understanding how to listen to your intuition can save you from all the back and forth. Wouldn't that be wonderful?
An article from Lonerwolf states that "Intuition stems from that nonlinear dimension of our minds, that part where unconscious connections and associations are made and arise within our conscious minds seemingly out of nowhere."
What this means is that intuition is difficult to quantify but can be felt from an area within the body that just "knows" the answer. And the beautiful part is that we are all gifted with intuition when we are born. It is innate within us but never nurtured as we grow and learn about the world around us.
Some benefits of listening to your intuition are the ability to make decisions with confidence and peace all while living a fulfilling life and understanding our deeper truths. This can all be yours with the right amount of awareness and desire.
One obstacle, during the awareness stage of learning to trust intuition, is the distinction between intuition and ego (fear-based thinking).
Fear-based thinking is great for survival. Beyond immediate threats and danger, the ego just becomes an obstacle to fulfilling what you truly desire.
Here's a personal example of how the ego can trump intuition: many years ago I had the opportunity to move states and become a Dive Master (guiding SCUBA excursions) in Florida. I could have dropped out of school, became a SCUBA instructor, and had the life of my dreams. It was all very easy, to be honest. But my ego told me to finish college and do all the things I thought I was supposed to do, such as get married and have kids. So I didn't pursue this amazing opportunity. I let my ego win. I put intuition aside and told myself many lies to fit within the parameters of what I logically thought I should believe. Now, 25 years later, I know I need to move to Florida and live the life I left behind so many years ago.
Confusing the voice of intuition and fear is very common. Intuition is a right-brained activity while logic is left-brained. Again, having both are imperative to a fulfilling and successful life. There needs to be balance from both sides to have a balanced life. To determine whether you are hearing your intuition (right brain) or ego (left brain), you must listen to your inner voice. Here are some distinctions -
Fear-based answers
- Heavy and dark
- Emotionally charged
- Vague
- Leaves you with feelings of overwhelm, frustration or anxiety
- Causes you to get lost in cycles of thought
Intuitive-based answers
- Feels light
- Unemotional
- Crystal clear answer
- Makes you feel calm and inspired
- Immediately feels right without any need for further thought
Learning the difference between these may take you some time. But as I stated above, awareness is key to understanding and learning. Once you open your awareness to new ideas, your subconscious mind can pick up cues to help you through the learning process.
Here are 2 ways to practice listening to your intuition.
Option 1
Start with an easy decision. Set aside 5 minutes with little distraction. Ask yourself or say out loud, one of the options. See where you feel it in your body. Does it have a color, texture, and/or temperature? Does it move or stay in one place. How does it feel overall?
Then do the same thing with the other option. Find all the details and determine how it feels overall. Compare both results.
Let's say you needed to make a decision between buying a new pair of shoes that would help with your job or a new winter coat to help keep you warm. You are on a budget so having both is not an option. You sit with the shoes and it feels warm in your chest area, the color is green-blue and the texture is similar to fluffy clouds.
Then you sit with the coat. The color is orange and it sits in your throat. The temperature is cooler and the texture is similar to leather.
After comparing you decide that the shoe and the feelings associated with the shoes were more optimal.
Option 2
Start with distracting yourself. You can do this by reading fiction, watching something funny, washing dishes or many other 'mundane' things to occupy your mind. Then, very quickly, say to yourself or out loud, one of your options and wait. Did you get a clear answer or is there an answer with a lot of chatter afterward? Was there an initial answer and then a different one?
Distract yourself again for about 3 minutes and repeat using the second option (or continue on until you have gone through all options). Again, say out loud or to yourself, your other option. Stop to listen. Did you get a quick and clear answer? Was there an initial answer followed up by a different answer?
Giving your mind a distraction helps the brain to step away from the immediate "danger". By presenting it quickly, you will most likely get a gut reaction. A gut reaction is your intuition.
Using the shoes and coat example from above, start by distracting yourself. For example, you could be folding laundry while listening to music. Once the laundry is folded, say out loud or to yourself "I should get a new pair of shoes". You may immediately hear a 'Yes' then followed by 'nah, you don't need those. You already have shoes, blah, blah, blah'.
Find another distraction such as reading a book, washing dishes or driving. Ask yourself "I should buy a new jacket for the winter". Listen to the immediate response. You may immediately hear 'No' followed by lots of inner chatter.
This technique takes more awareness than the first one. Just continue to play around with how answers feel inside your body and mind.
All of this takes practice. Each person will have different reactions to positive responses and not-positive responses. Patience and practice are essential but you will eventually learn the difference and no longer question your decision-making ability.
Allowing your intuition to guide you is beneficial on many levels including letting go of fear-based decision making.
Follow your heart and you will always know the way.
Namaste
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The term "spiritual", "enlightenment" and "intuitive" were terms you rarely heard. But now, in 2021, these terms can be heard from those who are in the "waking up" stage of life.
If you are reading this, most likely you have heard these words uttered often or have read articles with these words strewn about. But do you actually know what some of these words mean? I am certainly not judging if you aren't quite sure. The spiritual jargon can be tricky especially when words are incorrect so often. PS: I am not the grammar police only here to help you navigate some "new age" words.
Photo by Aura - Radiated glow or halo surrounding living beings.
Chakra - Circular, rotating energy vortices existing in the etheric body.
Chi - A vital life force (Traditional Chinese Medicine)
Elemental - A spirit composed of one of the four elements: Earth, water, air, fire
Enlightenment - A state of awakened understanding
Empath - A person capable of sensing the emotions of others around them in a way unexplained by science
Esoteric - A word used to describe knowledge that is possessed or understood only by a few.
Gaia - A Greek name for the goddess of the earth. It also refers to a scientific hypothesis formulated by James Lovelock whereby all living matter on the earth is believed to be a single living organism. In such a scheme, humanity is considered the nervous system of the living earth.
Grounding - Consciously focusing on one's won physical connection to Earth
Higher self - Refers to the inner divine nature of all human beings. A direct connection to Universal Life Force.
Interconnectedness - A world view of seeing Oneness in all things.
Intuitive - Able to know or understand something using feelings without proof or scientific backing.
Karma - Refers to the "debt" accumulated against a soul as a result of good or bad actions committed during one's life (or lives).
Kundalini - The elemental energy of the human body which, like a serpent, rests coiled at the base of the spine.
Paradigm shift - Refers to a shift in world views. The so-called "new paradigm" (new model or form) is pantheistic (all is God) and monastic (all is one).
Pineal Gland - Gland in the center of the brain responsible for Third Eye activity.
Precognition - Advance knowledge of future events
Qi (Prana) - Universal Life Force energy
Shaman - Practitioner of Shamanism; person who interacts with the spirit world
Spirit guide - A spiritual entity who provides information of "guidance," often through a medium or channeled.
Starseed - A soul that has reincarnated on Earth. One who carries cellular divine, galactic wisdom from previous lifetimes.
Third Eye - Psychic energy center located at the brow chakra in the middle of the forehead.
Visualization - Also known as "guided imagery," visualization basically refers to "mind over matter." It involves the attempt to bring about change in the material realm by the power of the mind.
Yin/Yang (Masculine/Feminine) - Chinese names referring to the active and passive principles of the universe. Yin refers to the female (tranquility, night and creativity); Yang to the male (Active, daylight, doing). These two polar forces continually interplay with each other. The words are used to describe the constant motion and change in the universe.
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I want to iterate that there may be several definitions for some of the words. It would depend on who you ask, of course.
Now that you have some basic words for your personal use, you may feel spiritual AF and want to go using them often.
But from personal experience, sometimes you will get some strange looks and maybe even get people to say you are "weird". I'm totally okay with that and I hope you will be too.
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Let's talk about Emotional Alignment and how this can affect your internal freedom.
Emotional Alignment is defined as the accuracy with which you perceive the past and assess the future. Overall it represents the degree to which you skew reality.
This theory uses the four critical areas (pillars) of your life to help guide you toward personal freedoms
- Mind (thinking, logical)
- Body (physical)
- Spirit (subconscious thoughts, patterns, behaviors)
- Vocation (job, career, legacy to the world around you)
When you struggle in one area (a trigger), this struggle will continue for a lifetime if not acknowledged and processed in a healthy manner.
We all have triggers.
For example, one of my biggest triggers involves impatience. When I would inevitably get stuck in the slowest line at the store, miss the green light because of a slow driver in front of me, or waiting for my kids to tie their shoes so they won't be late for school, my trigger would rear its ugly head.
Your trigger(s) may be very different. You may have 1 trigger or may have 21 triggers. It all depends on your awareness of the situations that cause you what is ultimately unnecessary stress.
Now let's connect the dots. To make this easy (and personal), I will use my own example of impatience.
When this would pop up, I would notice my heart race a bit faster, my breathing become more shallow and my mind finding scenarios of how this will turn out to be the worst outcome EVER. Then I would begin to speak more quickly with a higher-pitched voice and repeatedly explain and complain why this delay is going to cost me.
Turns out, I was mostly right. It did cost me but it wasn't the delay. It was my inability to let go of needing the situation to go exactly on my schedule. It was my lack of knowing that 1 minute isn't going to change the course of my life. It was also realizing that I had a fear of missing out on something in life because of childhood situations that would make me feel like if I didn't hurry I would miss out.
The hardest thing to do is acknowledge your triggers. Once you've owned up to them, the rest is somewhat easier (although truly not that easy).
First, you will need to take a hard look at yourself. You will need to be brutally honest and forthright with the real you. Here's the thing: nobody is grading this. Nobody else cares that you are embarking on this treasure hunt of unpleasantries. This work is done solo. So don't be shy. Take your time with it and open up to the real you.
Once you have acknowledged 1 or more triggers, it's time to write down (yes write) why you have these triggers (FREE journal prompt workbook). I did say it gets easier after finding your triggers but this part is hard too. You now need to fully examine why you feel the need to react the way you do. What is it about the scenarios that created the reaction? Your reaction may be to yell, eat, watch TV, sleep, self-medicate with alcohol or drugs, or any other situational remedies you might find to escape the current reality.
Here's where it gets a bit easier.
When you have been triggered (and you will for a time), you just acknowledge the situation, laugh, and let it go. That's it.
This may seem way too easy. Good. The more you can allow the acknowledgment and the laughter, the less you will be triggered. Each trigger will feel smaller and smaller. Until eventually you won't be triggered anymore.
Let me get back to why and how this affects your internal freedom.
Getting triggered is like picking up a hot coal to throw at someone - you get burned in the process.
Allowing life situations to create anger, fear or resentment, only pile on unneeded stress. Stress can deplete the body of healing while also creating disease or illness in the body. Having anger stops you from enjoying life. Having fear stops you from a spontaneous adventure. Having resentment prevents you from having beautiful relationships with people.
Working through your triggers frees your body from taking on a burden that only hurts you.
You will feel emotionally, physically and spiritually lighter. You will see the world in a different light. You will find that more opportunities come your way, that situations open up for you and people treat you differently.
When you are emotionally free from your shackles, you will find the four pillars to grow and strengthen. They will support each other rather than rely on each other.
As for my impatience, the more I acknowledged each situation, the more I was able to let go and laugh. Eventually, my lesson was learned. I now experience peace from within.
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You've likely been speaking words since you were 2 years old.
Parents are eager to hear their kids speak early and get excited about the very first word. They encourage words such as mom, dad, ball and dog. The very first word is a milestone for every parent. As more words are learned and repeated, the child is more likely to express themselves through words.
But then, there comes a time when one or both parents become exhausted from the constant babble. Kids have a tendency to ask the same question for the millionth time or go on and on about a toy they love. And often, at early ages, kids like to cry, scream and practice using their voice in a loud manner. It's a normal part of childhood.
But for some kids, who are now adults, their experience has been challenging. They experienced excitement, clapping, and awe when they spoke their first word. Only to hear the parents tell them to "be quiet", "not so loud", "use your inside voice" or (the worst in my opinion) "kids are to be seen and not heard".
Now, you may not remember all the ooh's and aah's of your first words, but there is a good chance you remember the disappointment when being told to not speak or be quiet. And the more you were told this, the more you turned into your own dialogue and created a habit of not speaking. And to be fair, it's confusing when you are told by one or both parents to "be quiet" but then encouraged to speak up in school or when asked a question like "who ate all the cookies without asking?". For a child, this becomes a roller coaster of social navigation. And sadly, the likely outcome is that the child grows up thinking that their voice only counts when someone is an authority figure. This type of behavior molding creates an adult who doesn't have the courage to speak up or loses the self-esteem to voice their opinion.
Signs of Not Being Heard
If you have made it this far, chances are you are falling somewhere in this category.
Here are some symptoms you may be experiencing:
- Scared of speaking the truth because of being rejected
- You always aim to please everyone
- You have a difficult time speaking up for yourself regarding your own choices
- You feel unheard and misunderstood in most circumstances
- Your self-expression is minimized and people fail to comprehend you
- You speak too fast or too slow
- You feel insecure about your own decisions
- It's difficult to find the right words to express yourself
- Have or had a stutter
For many adults, acknowledging this behavior is not easy because it means that you have allowed yourself to be minimized or downplayed.
Finding the Source
Finding out the 'why' or 'how' of not being able to speak your voice is not always necessary though it can help to understand ways to open up and start finding your voice.
The easiest way to do that is to think back to the earliest childhood memory of being told to be quiet. You want to find the earliest memory even if it is only a few frames of memory. Because as you work to unravel the mystery of your disappearing voice, old memories will surface and that will be your opportunity to let them go in a healthy way.
Once you found the earliest memory, replay it a few times in your head. Use all of your senses. Identify sounds, sights, smells, spoken and unspoken words, etc. Each time you replay the memory, let each of the senses get softer or diminish in intensity. You want the memory to start fading away while acknowledging it existed. You are basically allowing it to fade in the distance and bidding it farewell. This process may take 1 day or several weeks depending on how much it impacted you. There is a great chance that emotions will follow and know that it is okay to feel them. It's okay to have sadness, anger or even fear. But each time you feel them, you will get to know them more and more until the emotions from that incident are no longer feeling so big. Rather, they fade into the distance too. And then you can look back at this memory as if you read it in a book or it was someone else's memory.
There are many other ways to go about this process of letting go of a memory so that it no longer affects you emotionally. I find this process to be the quickest and most accessible. Feel free to experiment with other options such as journaling or burning the memory.
Bring in the Healing
Now for the important part: healing the throat and voice so that you can feel confident in speaking up when YOU decide to speak.
#1 Singing
This, for me, was the absolute most difficult aspect of opening up my voice. Not only do I have a pretty bad singing voice (as I am told by my kids) and am tone deaf, but public or even private singing was mortifying. I would rather show up naked on a stage in front of 1000 people than sing in front of 2. For me, this was one step I couldn't take until I took some other steps to heal. However, if you love or even like singing, this may be a great way for you to challenge your voice. Singing to or with others can be somewhat vulnerable and will help loosen you up to use your voice but in a fun way. I have finally gotten to the point of singing by myself in front of other people knowing that it is okay if my voice is not great - it's the intention behind it.
#2 Yoga
There are certain yoga poses that can help open the throat and voice. Rather than performing in front of someone, yoga gives you the opportunity to move energy in the throat chakra. Some poses are Lion pose, Fish pose, Bridge and Plough. Since these movements revolve around the neck and spine, be sure to follow protocol to avoid injury.
#3 Scream
A seemingly easy, yet mentally difficult way of opening up the throat chakra and voice is by simply screaming. Now you may be scoffing at this one as, as I mentioned, it seems super easy. But I promise that some of you will have a very difficult time with this one. One way to start is by screaming into your pillow. It will be the easiest because it won't alert people or cause stares. Then you can progress to the shower since the running water will mute the sound a bit. Then you can try screaming in your own home (hoping nobody calls the police on you!!). The most difficult step is screaming outside, preferably in the woods or mountains. Once you conquer this step, you know you've made progress.
#4 Feeling Blue
One big stepping stone for me was wearing a blue stone right below the Adam's apple. I wore this necklace for over a year. And I wouldn't believe it if I wasn't looking in the mirror when it happened, but the necklace just broke into a bunch of beads that fell all over the ground. My time was up for me wearing the blue stone. Blue is associated with the throat chakra. That doesn't mean you have to wear a blue stone as I did. Just consider what you can wear on you that is blue. Pants, shirts, dresses, scarves, hats, or even sunglasses. You can always carry a blue stone in your pocket or as a bracelet or ring. The idea is to see the color as often as possible.
#5 Oh That Smell
Forget the synthetic perfumes and sprays. Try an essential oil dabbed directly on your skin. Not only does it smell fantastic but you don't get any of the toxic leftovers. And there are scents that correlate with each chakra that can help you in aligning them back into balance. The throat chakra loves the scents of frankincense, lime, cedarwood, and rosemary to name a few. And if you don't want to wear the scent you can always surround yourself with it using a diffuser.
#6 Hand Mudra
Hand mudras can also be thought of as hand yoga. Since your fingers also have their own chakra system, placing your hands and fingers in specific positions creates a circuit to allow energy flow. One hand mudra for the throat is called Dyhana Mudra and is performed by placing the right hand on top of the left, both hands face up, and bring the thumbs to touch.
#7 741Hz Frequency
By now you have likely heard about sound frequency. Different frequencies affect your mind, body, and spirit complex in different ways. The frequency that will help align your throat is 741Hz. This can be played in the background as you work, cook, drive, etc. You can also play it using headphones while exercising or before you fall asleep at night.
What to Expect
Once you have decided to become more vocal, speak your truth and no longer feel self-conscious about stating your personal opinion, just start with one thing. If you decide to start singing more, do that. If it feels good, keep doing it. There is truly no wrong way to go about balancing the throat chakra to give you more flow. If your intention is to once and for all be able to vocalize, then you will know what is going to work for you and what won't. Don't worry about the specifics. All the ideas are flexible. Day 1 you can try the hand mudra while wearing blue. Day 2 you can listen to 741Hz and then Day 3 you can go back to the hand mudra and a yoga pose. Its truly up to you how much or little you want to go after your goal.
Which brings us to the next question: how long will it take to feel vocal freedom? Well, that greatly depends on so many factors. But, if you experience more than half of the signs and symptoms above, expect at least 1 year. If you only have a couple of the signs/symptoms, you may be able to heal your voice much sooner.
Once you are on the path to healing, I want to hear about your journey and how its coming along for you. Remember, you are unique. You didn't come from a cookie-cutter mold. So be patient with your journey. Show yourself compassion and most of all, speak up for what you want so that you can be seen and heard.
