spirituality

Being a child is full of its ups and downs

We've all been there (obviously).  But maybe your childhood was different.

Maybe you felt different from others or expressed yourself differently.  

If you've never heard the term Indigo Child or Starseed, you may be surprised to find that you, or even your child, are one of them.

For most kids, there are expectations in school to get good grades, do well, listen to the adults and do what is expected of them.  But for many kids (or yourself) this type of learning and living didn't sit well with you.

You preferred to have alone time, sit with nature, challenge authority and daydream.  A typical school curriculum doesn't condone much of these things.  The home environment was structured with the same elements: do your chores, listen to authority, be a good girl or boy and don't question the adults.

This type of lifestyle for an Indigo child or Starseed can be stressful, overwhelming and may lead to depression.

Starseeds are emotionally evolved yet most of society doesn't see them in that light.

Many Starseeds fall into some or all of the following categories - 

Creative or artistic in different facets

Enjoying alone time

Has a hard time making new friends

Deeply connected to nature and/or animals

Challenges authorties

Challenges societal norms

Daydreams

Gets bored easily

Very intelligent but does average in school

Tendency toward rebellion

Possibly diagnosed with ADD or similar

May seem depressed at times

Empathic (take on other peoples feelings)

There is nothing wrong with the Starseed child.  In fact, they understand the Earth's energies better than most people.  They sense subtle energetic shifts.  They deeply feel when nature is out of balance or when a person or animal is suffering.  They have a subconscious need to help those who appear to be hurting.  They understand, on a cellular level, that humanity is all linked together.  There is no separateness.  Every living Being on the planet relies on all other living Being and that we must all work together in joy, peace and love.

When these children are told in school to sit down, listen and raise their hand to talk, this puts them in a strained position of wanting to do the right thing but knowing that it doesn't feel natural.  They know that their mind works differently but it can be difficult to express to adults, who think linearly, how their process works.  They are global thinkers.  Helpers.  Humanitarians.  Artists.  They are here to raise the global consciousness of the planet.  To help raise the frequency of Mother Gaia and its inhabitants.  They are here to bring peace to mankind and protect our most precious resource - planet Earth.

Helping them become aware of their true function in this lifetime is paramount to their mental health.  If not nourished, they may become depressed and most likely be put on medication.  This will completely stifle their personality and not allow them to flourish and thrive.

As a parent, the best practice for you is to allow them alone time when they need it.  This helps them to decompress from the energies of the day.  Being in school can be exhausting for Starseeds as they need to process and just sit while their body moves out the unnecessary energy.  

Give them ample time in nature, give them a plant or animal to take care of or get them walking outside as much as possible.

Let them express themselves artistically in whatever means comes most naturally for them.  Growing up, I was into moving my body.  I would find ways to get energy moving by doing a physical activity that felt good to me: cartwheels, dancing, swinging on a swing or biking.  Some kids may want to use their hands while others might find a way to be creative with technology.  Let them play and experience different facets of creativity.  It will ebb and flow as they get older.  The more exposure they have at a younger age, the better they will be able to express themselves as teenagers.

There is no logical way to raise a Starseed.  Each unique Being has their own way of expressing the world around them.   Listening to their needs and allowing them to navigate life in their way, even if it seems strange to you, will help them develop a healthy mind, body and spirit.

(What type of Starseed are you?  Click here to find out)

Making decisions is a daily activity.

What do I wear to work?  What should we eat for dinner?  Do I go back to school?  What should we name our firstborn child?

Some decisions are so much easier and don't feel like a life-and-death scenario.

But other decisions can weigh on you causing sleepless nights, mindless eating and possibly even bugging your family and friends for input who are tired of hearing about the situation.

And when you become wrapped up in your own "drama" you feel that the decision has consumed you until you have become stressed out and irritated.

But you don't need to feel this way ever again.  Simply understanding how to listen to your intuition can save you from all the back and forth.  Wouldn't that be wonderful?

An article from Lonerwolf states that "Intuition stems from that nonlinear dimension of our minds, that part where unconscious connections and associations are made and arise within our conscious minds seemingly out of nowhere."  

What this means is that intuition is difficult to quantify but can be felt from an area within the body that just "knows" the answer.  And the beautiful part is that we are all gifted with intuition when we are born.  It is innate within us but never nurtured as we grow and learn about the world around us.

Some benefits of listening to your intuition are the ability to make decisions with confidence and peace all while living a fulfilling life and understanding our deeper truths.  This can all be yours with the right amount of awareness and desire.

One obstacle, during the awareness stage of learning to trust intuition, is the distinction between intuition and ego (fear-based thinking).

Fear-based thinking is great for survival.  Beyond immediate threats and danger, the ego just becomes an obstacle to fulfilling what you truly desire.

Here's a personal example of how the ego can trump intuition: many years ago I had the opportunity to move states and become a Dive Master (guiding SCUBA excursions) in Florida.  I could have dropped out of school, became a SCUBA instructor, and had the life of my dreams.  It was all very easy, to be honest.  But my ego told me to finish college and do all the things I thought I was supposed to do, such as get married and have kids.  So I didn't pursue this amazing opportunity.  I let my ego win.  I put intuition aside and told myself many lies to fit within the parameters of what I logically thought I should believe.  Now, 25 years later, I know I need to move to Florida and live the life I left behind so many years ago.

Confusing the voice of intuition and fear is very common.  Intuition is a right-brained activity while logic is left-brained.  Again, having both are imperative to a fulfilling and successful life.  There needs to be balance from both sides to have a balanced life.  To determine whether you are hearing your intuition (right brain) or ego (left brain), you must listen to your inner voice.  Here are some distinctions - 

Learning the difference between these may take you some time.  But as I stated above, awareness is key to understanding and learning.  Once you open your awareness to new ideas, your subconscious mind can pick up cues to help you through the learning process.

Let's say you needed to make a decision between buying a new pair of shoes that would help with your job or a new winter coat to help keep you warm.  You are on a budget so having both is not an option.  You sit with the shoes and it feels warm in your chest area, the color is green-blue and the texture is similar to fluffy clouds.  

Then you sit with the coat.  The color is orange and it sits in your throat.  The temperature is cooler and the texture is similar to leather.  

After comparing you decide that the shoe and the feelings associated with the shoes were more optimal. 

 Using the shoes and coat example from above, start by distracting yourself.  For example, you could be folding laundry while listening to music.  Once the laundry is folded, say out loud or to yourself "I should get a new pair of shoes".  You may immediately hear a 'Yes' then followed by 'nah, you don't need those.  You already have shoes, blah, blah, blah'.

Find another distraction such as reading a book, washing dishes or driving.  Ask yourself "I should buy a new jacket for the winter".  Listen to the immediate response.  You may immediately hear 'No' followed by lots of inner chatter.

This technique takes more awareness than the first one.  Just continue to play around with how answers feel inside your body and mind.

All of this takes practice.  Each person will have different reactions to positive responses and not-positive responses.  Patience and practice are essential but you will eventually learn the difference and no longer question your decision-making ability.

Allowing your intuition to guide you is beneficial on many levels including letting go of fear-based decision making.  

Follow your heart and you will always know the way.

Namaste

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The term "spiritual", "enlightenment" and "intuitive" were terms you rarely heard.  But now, in 2021, these terms can be heard from those who are in the "waking up" stage of life.

If you are reading this, most likely you have heard these words uttered often or have read articles with these words strewn about.  But do you actually know what some of these words mean?   I am certainly not judging if you aren't quite sure.  The spiritual jargon can be tricky especially when words are incorrect so often.  PS: I am not the grammar police only here to help you navigate some "new age" words.

Aura -  Radiated glow or halo surrounding living beings.

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Let's talk about Emotional Alignment and how this can affect your internal freedom.

This theory uses the four critical areas (pillars) of your life to help guide you toward personal freedoms

When you struggle in one area (a trigger), this struggle will continue for a lifetime if not acknowledged and processed in a healthy manner.

We all have triggers.  

For example, one of my biggest triggers involves impatience.  When I would inevitably get stuck in the slowest line at the store, miss the green light because of a slow driver in front of me, or waiting for my kids to tie their shoes so they won't be late for school, my trigger would rear its ugly head.

Your trigger(s) may be very different. You may have 1 trigger or may have 21 triggers.  It all depends on your awareness of the situations that cause you what is ultimately unnecessary stress.

Click here to see some of the most common triggers.

Now let's connect the dots.  To make this easy (and personal), I will use my own example of impatience.

When this would pop up, I would notice my heart race a bit faster, my breathing become more shallow and my mind finding scenarios of how this will turn out to be the worst outcome EVER.  Then I would begin to speak more quickly with a higher-pitched voice and repeatedly explain and complain why this delay is going to cost me.

Turns out, I was mostly right.  It did cost me but it wasn't the delay.  It was my inability to let go of needing the situation to go exactly on my schedule.  It was my lack of knowing that 1 minute isn't going to change the course of my life.  It was also realizing that I had a fear of missing out on something in life because of childhood situations that would make me feel like if I didn't hurry I would miss out.  

The hardest thing to do is acknowledge your triggers.  Once you've owned up to them, the rest is somewhat easier (although truly not that easy).

First, you will need to take a hard look at yourself.  You will need to be brutally honest and forthright with the real you.  Here's the thing: nobody is grading this.  Nobody else cares that you are embarking on this treasure hunt of unpleasantries.  This work is done solo.  So don't be shy.  Take your time with it and open up to the real you.

Once you have acknowledged 1 or more triggers, it's time to write down (yes write) why you have these triggers (FREE journal prompt workbook). I did say it gets easier after finding your triggers but this part is hard too.  You now need to fully examine why you feel the need to react the way you do.  What is it about the scenarios that created the reaction?  Your reaction may be to yell, eat, watch TV, sleep, self-medicate with alcohol or drugs, or any other situational remedies you might find to escape the current reality.

Here's where it gets a bit easier.

When you have been triggered (and you will for a time), you just acknowledge the situation, laugh, and let it go.  That's it.

This may seem way too easy.  Good.  The more you can allow the acknowledgment and the laughter, the less you will be triggered.  Each trigger will feel smaller and smaller.  Until eventually you won't be triggered anymore.

Let me get back to why and how this affects your internal freedom.  

Getting triggered is like picking up a hot coal to throw at someone - you get burned in the process.

Allowing life situations to create anger, fear or resentment, only pile on unneeded stress.  Stress can deplete the body of healing while also creating disease or illness in the body.  Having anger stops you from enjoying life.  Having fear stops you from a spontaneous adventure.  Having resentment prevents you from having beautiful relationships with people.

Working through your triggers frees your body from taking on a burden that only hurts you.  

You will feel emotionally, physically and spiritually lighter.  You will see the world in a different light.  You will find that more opportunities come your way, that situations open up for you and people treat you differently.

When you are emotionally free from your shackles, you will find the four pillars to grow and strengthen.  They will support each other rather than rely on each other.

As for my impatience, the more I acknowledged each situation, the more I was able to let go and laugh.  Eventually, my lesson was learned.  I now experience peace from within.

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